The same thing keeps happening, with different people.

Plain-language explainers on why dating repeats, built from published research. Every article lists its sources and the date it was last checked.

Questions we answer

30%
of U.S. adults have ever used a dating site or app.
Pew Research Center, 2023. 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022.
39%
of U.S. singles have used AI somewhere in their dating lives, most often for messages and profiles.
Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 2026. About 5,000 U.S. singles.
78%
of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes.
Forbes Health and OnePoll, reported by Deseret News, 2024. 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year.
1 in 3
unmarried adults ages 22 to 35 are actively dating.
Wheatley Institute and Institute for Family Studies, 2026. 5,275 unmarried U.S. adults ages 22 to 35.

Brutal breakupNPR, 2022
Heartbroken? There's a scientific reason why breaking up feels so rotten (opens npr.org)
Explains why a breakup can throw off sleep, appetite and mood, and why the pain is physical as well as emotional.
LonelinessHarvard Health Publishing, 2017
The power and prevalence of loneliness (opens health.harvard.edu)
A short medical overview of how common loneliness is and why it matters for both mental and physical health.
AttractionAssociation for Psychological Science
Chemistry Between People: A Sum of Their Connections (opens psychologicalscience.org)
Shows that chemistry grows out of how two people interact over time, not out of a checklist of traits.

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